SING FOR THE LORD

This Psalm of Praise to the Creator reminds us to let the Lord’s loving kindness be upon us. As I reflect on those who have inspired me with their love, I think of a very special person – my husband’s mother, Barbara King.

I remember my first impressions when I met her in 1977. She had a bright smile and a relaxed manner that put me immediately at ease. Indeed, I was blessed to gain another mother who could offer guidance and inspiration as I entered this new phase of my life – marriage and motherhood. (Yes, my birth mother also is a wonderful human being, but that’s a diversion from this particular story!)

I called my mother-in-law “Mom” right from the beginning because I felt her genuine acceptance of me with no strings attached. Her philosophy was to embrace life as it came along. She was a free spirit – flexible, open-minded and willing to try new things, even as she advanced in years. I was amazed at her interest in the latest trends and her ability to keep up with what the younger generations were doing! Mom King was truly a delightful person to be with – she had a positive attitude and a certain sparkle that seemed to say, “Thank God for letting me be alive each and every day.” We enjoyed each other’s company and could talk for hours about any subject. As time passed, I realized that our relationship had become richer and deeper. I also discovered that I had learned valuable lessons through her example. In her subtle, indirect way, she helped me let go of some of my worries, live each moment to the fullest and stay young at heart. Mom King was comfortable letting Him be in the driver’s seat, and that allowed her to experience life without fear or anxiety.

Among my dearest memories of Mom is the time we spent together after her heart surgery. She really needed an extra dose of strength and determination, which I tried to supply. As I watched her struggle and felt how much she needed my presence, I also witnessed God’s loving touch. As she worked through the physical stress, I provided the emotional support, and we forged a true partnership – mutual love and respect. I am so thankful for the memory of those moments.

When Mom King died two years ago, she left us without causing any trouble. After all, it would not be like her to inconvenience anyone. Her heart simply stopped and she died peacefully in her sleep. Somehow, I sensed that God had chosen this ending, as it was a perfect match for how she had lived her life – without grandeur, pomp or circumstance. The only trouble was that I was not yet ready to let her go. I had great plans for us to continue our conversations and laughter, and her death caught me by surprise. But, I gave myself a gentle reminder to “sing for joy in the Lord” and sing we did at her memorial service. Mom King gave me so much, and I hope that some of her wisdom lives on through me.

— Melissa King

Courtesy of The Church of the Good Shepherd United Methodist